Whether you’re dating a guy, living with a guy, or are newly engaged, you have the same challenge ahead of you.
It’s time to anticipate your man’s needs.
No, this is not about becoming a submissive woman or a perfect Stepford Housewife, none of that stuff. I simply mean the reciprocity of any relationship. He provides something valuable to you and in return, he hopes you will fulfill certain needs that he has—or that he may not even know that he has.
I’m not talking about his sexual desires. Sure, sex is fun…it’s easy to figure out, it’s fantasy fulfillment. And yes, the more effort you put into creating real life fantasies, the better it can be.
But what I want to talk about now is an even deeper need that every man has and how meeting this need makes a man fall in love and makes him want to commit.
And that is to emotionally stimulate him. You can do this through the art of conversation.
This is what makes him want to marry. Want to live together, want to go exclusive. And the best way to make it happen is to ask DEEP QUESTIONS.
Yes, stimulating your man’s emotions (even more important than stimulating his intellect) intensifies the relationship, because you not only make him think but you make him feel.
I’m going to give you 20 questions to ask a man that will INSTANTLY make him feel something, think deeply, and just love talking to you. These questions will deepen his desire for your company and make him realize no one else stimulates his mind like YOU.
1. What is your happiest memory of all time?
A great line, one that forces him to think happy thoughts and reflect back on the best moments of his life. And now, he’s sharing it with you!
2. If you were super rich, what would be the first five things you do?
A question that appeals to his good moral character, since you challenge him to think about life—and beyond limitations. Challenge him ambition and get him thinking about his future.
3. If you could get rid of all your fears instantly, what would you do?
Another clever question, since this makes him share some of his fantasies and dreams that haven’t happened because of his inhibitions. A man wants to feel as if he can tell you anything.
4. What is the worst thing that happened to you that turned out to be a blessing in disguise?
Great opportunity to have him become “the teacher” and explain to you a coming of age moment where he learned something.
5. If you could send a message to the you of 20 years ago what would you say?
Excellent opportunity to hear about his regrets, dreams and unrealized ambitions – goals you can encourage him to try to reach again.
6. What makes you feel most alive?
Be sure to do this experience with him for positive associations.
7. What is your idea of a perfect day and night?
Great for studying what he actually expects when you start living together.
8. What are you like when you don’t get your way?
Most guys will answer these “flaw” questions proudly. It’s a good opportunity for you to study their difficult quirks.
9. How open-minded are you about life? What are you not open minded about?
Men who are open-minded tend to be easier to live with. Men set in their ways and beliefs, can be a bit more challenging. Figure out what his most important values are, and try not to push too hard at these.
10. When you feel distant from your partner what do you do?
A good way to let him know what you expect from him, intimacy-wise, when there are arguments.
11. How do you express love?
Great question and it challenges him to think deeper—gestures beyond the physical and monetary. Find out how he expresses passion in life.
12. If you were a time traveler, what year would you travel to?
Nice way to see the “ideal time period” your man thinks about, where he feels he fits in.
13. What was your favorite toy or video game when you were a kid?
Bond with him by sharing memories! A man recalling his childhood memories will feel vulnerable fast!
14. What’s your favorite book, movie, song or TV series?
Find out a little bit more about what’s on his mind and what topics he relates to. This can be very indicative of the way he sees the world, how he feels about life, and what he wants to accomplish.
15. What’s your darkest, most taboo fantasy ever?
Be sure to let him feel free to describe his most taboo fantasy. Even if you can’t give it to him exactly, he will feel a sense of relief from just being able to say it in front of you.
16. If you could do life over again what skill / career would you try for?
Good question that reveals his character, beyond what he does for a living. Sometimes a man’s hobby or charity work IS his passion, and not always his job.
17. If you could meet anyone throughout history, who would you choose and why?
Who does he admire? Who does he strive to be like?
18. What’s the worst job you’ve ever had? Or, what’s the funniest thing you’ve ever seen?
Great for sharing a laugh.
19. What life lesson do you want to teach other people? (Or hand down to your children)
Give him the chance to share his wisdom.
20. What was your favorite family vacation?
Nice way to get him to talk about his family—and get used to the idea of introducing you to each one!
These 20 questions are great conversation starters. A man’s real NEED from a partner is that he is emotionally stimulated. He wants to feel something and open-ended questions like these help him get in touch with his feelings and associate you as a friend who he can talk to about anything. That’s where you want to be, because he will fall in love with you when he realizes you know so much about him and he’s always comfortable in your presence.
To the woman who won’t settle for “good enough” love…
Sometimes, real life is even better than a fairy tale…
I learned that while walking the empty streets of Prague.
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Here’s how I remember it:
“Imagine you walk the streets of Prague, on a snowy December night. The cobble-stone streets click below your shoes… every corner looks like a painting from a museum back home…
You can feel the history in the air, and the romance wraps around you like an old coat.
Now, imagine you bump into a charming older couple. And you chat with them.
Their love is so clear, you ask how long they’ve been married.
“Sixty years,” says the husband, with a warm smile. He puts his hand on his wife’s back, and looks at her with love in his eyes.
“Sixty blissful years with the love of my life.”
You finish talking, but before you say goodbye, the woman takes you aside. And she slips an antique bottle into your hand.
“Take this,” she says. “This is my ‘true love’ secret to keeping my husband obsessed with me, for all these years.” “
Can you guess what her secret was?
I think you’d be wrong.
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