6 Signs He’s Losing the Love He Once Had For You

It’s your worst fear come true: he’s falling out of love with you! It’s a devastating experience and the one thing you both promised would never happen.

But here you are…and it’s very evident that something has changed. There’s a lack of passion, a lack of sex and intimacy, and worst of all, an emotional disconnect.

Something has to change and soon, or else you could both lose everything.

And even though you’re probably panicking, thinking that divorce or breakup is imminent…I actually have some words of comfort for you.

It’s NOT too late. It’s not even an issue of incompatibility, as if you are “wrong” for each other. There’s still hope. And there are still certain actions you can take to repair the relationship before it wastes away into nothing.

And I’ll let you know what that is at the end…but first, let’s talk about the difference between a lack of passion (which is common and sort of a big deal) vs. a guy actually losing the love he has for you, which is a huge deal and is putting your relationship in jeopardy. Let’s start by considering six very obvious red flags that show he’s losing that loving feeling—and fast!

1. His entire personality has changed from dream lover to selfish lout.

He started off the perfect gentleman, all about pleasing you and entertaining you…so what happened? Now when you talk to him he’s irritable, unresponsive (maybe hours or days without responding to messages), rude and overly critical. He may even blame you for everything going wrong with the relationship.

It’s almost like he’s not the man you fell in love with! That’s the sign of a man who’s completely dissatisfied in the relationship. In his mind, the relationship is nearly over because he’s no longer getting what he wanted out of it. Now he’s resentful and doesn’t care if you know…because to him, it’s no longer a secret. Your mutual unhappiness is out in the open.

2. He avoids talking to you and being with you as often as he can.

He may fill his schedule with work, with extra projects, or even just trying to be alone. He doesn’t enjoy spending time with you the way he used to. It’s all conflict or all pretending to enjoy himself, so he now prefers to be alone. He will oftentimes make excuses too, suggesting that he’s very busy and can’t afford the time to eat with you, make love, or go out on a date. You are no longer his priority and the love he once had is draining quickly.

3. He talks about other women. He even compares you to other women.

When a man talks to other women more than he talks to you it’s definitely the sign of a problem. But when he actually compares you to other women, OR mentions other women that make him happy, it really does feel like a vicious personal attack.

If the guy is rude and resentful, he may make very direct comparisons, perhaps comparing your body to his favorite celebrity or another attractive woman. Obvious assh*ole behavior, right?

But sometimes the comparisons are far more subtle. He may simply mention another woman’s name and meekly suggest how she handles a situation or what’s so fascinating about her life. If you feel jealous at the mention of her name, it’s probably with good reason. He’s mentioning her positive qualities, perhaps in casual conversation, while focusing on your negative qualities. It’s not as disrespectful as the previous example, but it’s still dangerous territory and a sign of unhappiness.

4. He seems upset or short-tempered when you try to flirt with him or be romantic.

He used to love those little nicknames and love taps. What happened? Now he seems annoyed by the behavior, as if you’re his mom kissing him before the school bus arrives.

If this sounds like your relationship, there’s definitely some festering resentment and it may have been building for a long time now. He’s unhappy with some element of the relationship, some need that’s not being met, or some new change in communication that left him feeling neglected. For him, showing “love” or cuteness is like saying “everything’s great!” when obviously it’s not.

5. He goes there… he brings up horror stories from the past and punishes you.

When a man is very unhappy he lets you know. In fact, he may go back years and harp on an incident long ago that showed your “true colors.” He may even consider your sins against him a “pattern of behavior”, even though it’s completely a shock to you.

He’s very confused…and he’s lashing out in anger, bringing up more stressful memories to further stress you out. There’s no reason to do this, except to punish you…because he’s extremely unhappy about some aspect in the relationship.

Identifying what’s really bothering him is important because this hurtful dynamic cannot continue in a loving relationship.

6. He belittles you in front of other people.

This is another clear sign of complete rejection and an almost vengeful outlook of the relationship itself. To him, belittling you in front of other people is both a punishment and an attempt to distance himself from what he perceives is your mistake or flaw.

Perhaps he naively thinks that shaming you in front of others will call attention to the problem, but it never works that way. It only creates more resentment, hurt feelings and retaliation.

In every loving relationship, there is a strong need for both partners to support each other—to believe in each other and to champion the good character of each other. It’s what creates trust, intimacy and love between two people.

When your partner reaches this point, he’s lost respect for you and quite possibly because he feels you’ve done the same to him.

What to Do

If you’ve noticed any of these signs, it’s very important that you talk things out as soon as possible, or see a relationship counselor as a last resort. This is an emergency situation and love, like blood, is draining fast. You must keep this relationship alive by tending to that wound and repairing the damage that’s been done.

Talk to your partner first and sit him down for a kind and non-accusatory conversation. Ask him why he’s unhappy and invite him to share his real feelings. Talk out your trust issues together and see what compromises you both can make to return the relationship to a respectful one where love flows freely.

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Talk soon,

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17 thoughts on “6 Signs He’s Losing the Love He Once Had For You”

  1. My ex &I have been off &Off for just over 3 years last time it took me to have a place to live before he actually talked to me and im pretty sure this time us the same reason but why cant he just talk to me about things instead of jumping back to the other one who made sure of homewrecking our home i know that im his favorite and he knows he wants our sexual intamacy till we are old and grey so why does he keep doing this and how can i get him to talk to me again

    1. Simply because you let him.
      You probably told him that you love him unconditionally. But you probably didn’t demand his respect your your needs. Because that would be a condition. So as long as he knows that you will always be there for him and will love him. He can do what he wants and you will let him. You may not like it but you will let him get away with it, just like you have in the past.

  2. Forget someone like that. Reads like an abuser who just faked his feelings for a while. Why would someone want to keep something like that?

  3. I can relate to Desperate in Vancouver BC, along with all 6 signs. The one only thing that is different is he still want to b friends n become roommates. I’m so confused. He will ask where I’m at or why I took long. He also will ask who I’m talking to, on the phone. What does this mean? What is he trying to tell me? Or is this just all in my imangination? What am I missing? I do catch him starting at me n sometimes it look as if he wants to tell me something but he won’t.

    1. I’m going through the same and want to know the answers Julia seeks as well he says he loves me but won’t put a direct label on it n so says if asked were only roommates he only told me finily he loved me after one day disappearing for 2 weeks witch I came to find out was with his ex girlfriend the hole time he ended up coming back home n says he loves me but I can see he is pained over his ex he says he loves us both but I feel something is off deep inside but I love him so much I think I am blinded by what the real truth may be???

  4. Julia Toledonez

    I was in a relationship with a man that met the world to me. I was so deeply in love with him as he was with me. Just last month I begin to notice changes in him. Finally I asked what was wrong. I was not expecting this he blamed me for things that I would never do to him and lastly that I took him for granted and his love for granted. He wanted me to apologize for taking him for granted, among other things. Thought for a moment (I was so angry and hurt) So I apologized. I held my angry inside, then I told him I needed some alone time for myself. Everyday he texted for a week didn’t respond. The day I decided to text, he texted saying how much he loved me and missed me, and that he hoped that I learned my lesson. That was it! During my alone time, I thought of how he insisted that I needed to apologize
    The hurt I’ve endured stuck in my mind. To be the nice person I am, I decided to give it another chance. For past 3 days waited to hear from him later in the evening of the day 3. Texting same old stuff. (I felt remorseful for all the things he said plus apologizing.) My feeling of love , completely gone. So I told him I wanted out and I stood my grounds, but still texting me to give him another chance. The question is did I make the right decision?

  5. I’ve been with this guy for almost 3 years.

    He only was with the ex in his life before me for 7 months maybe . But when him and I got together , he kept her quiet.
    She works for him or his company I should say , so maybe that’s why he kept her a secret so long. I asked about her several times because she would text him a lot and him to her, but he wouldn’t say a thing about who she was . Nothing!!
    I found out in my own that they had been together before him and I. My question is why would he keep her a secret for so long
    ? And even now and then I know they still talk. Even if it is for work reasons but he just will not tell me he talks to her . He proceeds to keep it from me.
    And I know they have talked because I saw their texts. He still continues to say he didn’t even when I had seen the proof

    Why keep it still a secret if there is nothing there ,?
    And he tells me he loves me every day.

  6. Chrissy Mikula

    23yrs of marriage and everything you described is happening and I truly haven’t done anything to provoke it. He won’t let me touch his phone. Could he be seeing another. Or online with another?

  7. I been in relationship for 20 years, he was my first man and my first love. We been separated for 3 years now due to his abuse and infidelity. We have 3 kids together and my dreams was to raise our kids together.
    I am still in love with him but for him and I wanted him to change that why I left him, but for him, it seems like he doesn’t love me anymore as I could see all six signs on him. He didn’t do any effort to change or show any signs that he cares.
    What should I do? Should I just give up on him and how as it hard or should I fight for his love.
    The only thing it been saying to his family is that he doesn’t want to get married to others woman again, I am confused and I don’t know what to do.
    I need advice.

    1. I’ve been married for 28 yrs my husband is seeing another woman for 9 yrs now and had a son with her, we had 7children I seen all the sign from him he doesn’t love me anymore
      Now he text me told me lie ave him alone and do nothing for him , he only come home to see the children
      What do I have to do

  8. I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months he was nice sweet flirty and then all of sudden he stopped talking to me. i send him messages and no reply I call him and no answer.


    1. I’m not psychic..however it sounds like he was married or in a relationship and she found out you had been txting, calling each other etc. He may have been given an ultimatum you or her..He chose her, Or you were just a diversion and when she found out she decided to stay with him..In order to stay in his relationship or marriage it would have been made clear no more contact, texts, calls etc..If he txts you or calls you to inform you then he’s broken trust again. So sadly you may never know and que sera sera ! Wait for a man who’s all in not just with one foot in the doorway

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