“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi
If you connect deeply with a man without making sure that you’ve removed these barriers, you may end up ruining everything with him.
After working with thousands of women in their love lives, I’ve found that there are three major barriers most women have from creating a loving relationship with a man.
Here they are:
1. Not Believing That You’re Worth It
After having multiple failed relationships and having a broken heart, a lot of women cast doubt into whether or not they’re really worthy of having a great relationship.
If you don’t feel worthy of love, you’ll end up doubting if your partner really loves you or not.
In fact, you might end up pushing your partner away and criticizing him until he finally leaves so that you can subconsciously prove that he doesn’t really love you.
I’ve seen this play out in dozen of relationships where two people love each other, want to stay together, and yet still seem to sabotage the relationship.
Look: If you’ve been suffering from thought patterns like this, I totally understand. I’ve been there and I’ve felt the exact same way before.
The truth is that most people, men and women, question whether or not they’re worthy of being loved.
And there’s a man out there who will love you and cherish you for exactly who you are.
The question is whether you’re going to let go of this negative idea in your mind and allow him to love you… or not.
You can stay single for the rest of your life… or maybe going from one broken relationship to the next.
Or you can really give love a chance and allow someone great into your life.
If a man decides that you’re worthy of being loved, why would you want to fight him on it?
Allow him to really love you. Allow him to be a part of your life.
2. Struggling to Be Certain That He Really Loves You
This goes along with the previous one. It’s a legitimate concern to wonder if a guy actually loves you or not.
You want to protect yourself. You want to make sure you don’t fall for a guy who says he loves you but really doesn’t.
I totally understand that.
Partly, that’s what your intuition is for. Your intuition will warn you if there’s something “off” about a guy.
At the same time, if you go into a relationship looking for everything that’s wrong, you’re going to find it.
And you may end up driving a great guy… a guy who is willing to love and accept you for who you are… you may end up driving him away.
I know it’s a risk to open yourself to love. But just remember to listen to your intuition and avoid pushing a great guy away from you because of your fears.
3. Thinking, “I’ve tried to connect with a guy and nothing has ever worked”
You may feel like you want to just give up if you’ve tried a bunch of things and nothing has ever worked for you.
Back in 2008, I was there too. I had just gotten out of a really bad breakup and I thought that maybe relationships just weren’t meant to work out.
I ended up taking a break from dating for a while to do some soul searching. And when I came back, I decided to take a risk and try something completely different than what I had been doing before.
You see, until then, I had been using games and manipulation because I thought that was the only way to get someone to feel attracted to me.
When I started using authentic dating practices, not only did I learn that I didn’t need games and manipulation to get into a relationship but that relationships based on authentic connections are much more fulfilling and longer lasting than ones based on games.
Having someone actually love you for who you are is so much more rewarding than making them feel addicted to you because of a game you played on them.
Regardless of whether you end up working with me or not, I suggest that you throw away all the games and focus solely on authentic connection strategies with men.
Why Men Pull Away From Some Women… But Fall Head Over Heels For Others
Have you ever tried to tell or show a man that you’re perfect for a man only to have him still leave you?
Have you ever gotten a man to tell you why he was leaving you and then you showed him that you were all of those things only to STILL have him leave you?
The truth is that most men don’t understand what they’re actually looking for in a woman…
All he knows is that he’s missing something…
He’s missing a certain feeling that NEEDS to be there in order to commit to a woman…
Some women just know how to make men feel this way, even if they’re doing it on accident…
If you want to know what a man needs to feel like you’re the right one for him, I created this video to explain it to you…
The truth is that he CAN’T tell you what he wants and even if he could he wouldn’t be able to explain it to you…
Because what makes him feel like he wants to stay and keep you all to himself isn’t something that you should be doing…
It’s almost exactly the opposite.
The best way for you to understand what I’m talking about is to go watch this video right now…