Why You Can’t Be ‘Friends’ With Your Ex Boyfriend

Are you “friends” with your ex boyfriend?

Maybe your ex suggested it would be a good idea to be friends…

…or maybe you think it’s “better than nothing” if the alternative is losing him forever.


Being friends with your ex is almost always a bad idea. And it’s a recipe for additional (and unnecessary) heartache.

It’s even more true if you want to get your ex back or if you’re ready to move on and don’t want to get back together at all.

While the “friend zone” is a terrible place to be with your ex, many people fall for this trap because it seems so tempting.

I mean, your ex is giving you an option that allows you to maintain contact with the person you’ve loved and, in theory, this will allow you to move on gently and slowly without the intense feelings of loneliness that often accompany a breakup.


I mean, after all, if you can slowly wean yourself off those romantic feelings instead of going “cold turkey” and shutting down all contact with him, isn’t that a better option?

But the problem is that even though it often seems like a perfect compromise, being friends usually provides very little comfort and actually makes the process of moving on longer and more difficult than it needs to be.

AND… even more importantly… it will ruin your chances of winning your ex back!

There are a few other huge problems with agreeing to be friends with your ex if you want to win him back:

1. He Won’t Miss You

It won’t give him a chance to develop feelings of nostalgia and he won’t miss you as much. One of the key ingredients to repairing a relationship is that your ex needs to miss your presence.

That begs to question… How do you make someone miss you?

Here’s the simple answer: disappear from his life suddenly and completely, shutting down all lines of communication.

By maintaining a friendship with your ex, it’s impossible to really effectively disappear from his radar and make him miss you.

2. You Give Him All of the Control

Being friends with your ex gives complete control of the situation to him.

Another key to winning back your ex is to make it clear that you are still equal with him even though he’s the one who decided to break up with you.

You need to make it known that you’re not a pushover and that if your ex isn’t interested in a romantic relationship, then he’s cut from your life altogether.

When you give him all the control over your relationship, you lose any power and control that you might have had… this usually results in him feeling less desire to be with you in a committed way.

And it results in you feeling more attached and in love with him than ever before… causing you even more heartache.

3. You Become the “Backup Plan”

When you stay friends with your ex, you serve as a “safety net” for him while he’s looking for someone new.

Do you want to be your ex’s confidante while he tells you about his new lovers? Do you want to be his “backup plan” in case things don’t work out with the new romance he’s pursuing?

Of course you don’t.

You have to make it absolutely clear to your ex that if he chooses to break up with you, he’s on his own and he can’t come running back to you if he finds the single life a bit less fun than he imagined it would be.

In reality, there really isn’t any scenario where being friends (at least for the first few months) after a breakup is possible.

If you’ve already agreed to be “friends” with your ex and got yourself stuck in the “friend zone,” calm down…. you can still undo this mistake and win him back (but only if you take action ASAP!).

The first step is to watch this complimentary video by world-renowned breakup guru Brad Browning:

Click here to watch the video <<

In fact, even if you haven’t yet agreed to be friends with your ex, you should still take 5 minutes to watch that video…. it will teach you a few little-known techniques to re-wire your ex’s feelings and make him want you back.

Just click this link:

Click here to watch the video <<

Thank me later…

Talk soon,

Matthew Coast







2 thoughts on “Why You Can’t Be ‘Friends’ With Your Ex Boyfriend”

  1. I love my ex-husband because the Bible tells everyone especially believers that we are to love one another. I have no desire to enter into any other relationship with him. We have three adult daughters together ages 37, 35, and 18. He never paid child support for our teenage daughter. I’ve been single since 1998. I wish him well and yes I pray for him. I have NO desire to remarry him even though he says he wants to marry him. Trust, respect, loyalty and honesty are several keys in my relationship.

  2. Me and my ex have been finished for 7 months and he is still in contact with me he was the one that ended the relationship

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